THE WOMAN EVERY MAN WANTS TO MARRY

Men are different, you know that. I know you like to say we are all the same but... OK, you win, we are rather predictable when I think about it.

These are the things that drive most men crazy about a girl. Let's start:

SHE'S LOYAL AND FAITHFUL

Nothing says Marriage Material than loyalty and faithfulness.

Nowadays, men don't trust women anymore. I once overheard a chat between two senior men in the bus where one said that today, a man can marry a girl, give her everything but she'll still cheat on him because it's Tuesday. Of course things aren't like that but today's men haven't been proven otherwise.

Today, women have detached themselves from the so-called primitive patriarchal conservative ideologies. Women can date more than one guy and society won't call her a prostitute anymore. After all, men have been doing this for millions of years, right?

Well, reality isn't like that. Unfortunately for women, as long as we live in a patriarchal society, women who sleep around won't be seen as marriage material but men who do the same thing might get a very bad reputation but more women will want to be with them. 

As all of you know, the majority of women find engaged men more attractive than single men while men find single women to be more attractive than engaged women. Men love virgins, women hate virgins. I believe things will change with time but we're not there yet. And personally, I hope we don't because more emotionally detached women just mean more emotionally detached men. That's a sad future.

This global phenomenon along with the fact that women are tired of being the victims, has made lots of women not to stay with only one guy. Usually, the nice guys get hurt and voila, another heartless guy who doesn't trust women is born.

When a women is loyal, present, and faithful, it might take a while before this guy realizes that this women is actually different and that she's maybe worth investing but it almost always happens. Also, some men with good hearts do change promiscuous women.

I'll talk about "How to make a womanizer commit" in a later chapter.

SHE IS WILLING TO CHANGE FOR A MAN

I have heard a million times in movies, in soup operas, TV series, in songs, and in real life this sentence: I WON'T CHANGE. IF HE LOVES ME, HE'LL STAY WITH ME THE WAY I AM.

What's wrong with this sentence?

Darwin would hate this and call it counterintuitive. Human beings have evolved and continue doing so because they are designed to adapt. When a hurdle arrives, human beings adapt thus overcoming it.

You are not who you were 10 years ago. You have changed, either by external reasons or by internal reasons. Sometimes your parents taught you that a certain behavior was wrong and you changed while other times you learned either from other people's mistakes, or from your own mistakes or even from your logical, rational reasoning. Heck, you are not who you were yesterday. All the cells in your body are not those you had 10 years ago. 

"Humans need to change, if we stop changing, we die."

Imagine if your man left his wet towel in the bed or he leaves the dishes unwashed and you told him to change. Four years later he keeps repeating the same irritating habit. Then, you tell him how deeply annoying it is to you and you ask him to change, and he says: I WON'T CHANGE. IF YOU LOVE ME, YOU'LL STAY WITH ME THE WAY I AM.

Imagine how annoying that would be. And, at that moment, you'd know that in the future there would be other traits of his that would be even worse. And he'd never change for you, NEVER, because that's how he was born.

Relationships are sacrifices after sacrifices. But it is a rewarding sacrifice when you love the other person more than you love yourself, when there's a truthful selflessness. That's how you deal with all the problems and that's why a lot of men apologize even when they know they're right. Because women have been taught that they can do all sorts of wrong things and still get the man to apologize, appealing to the father in all men.

Some women behave like their mothers while others behave like their 6-year-old selves. But then again, some men need someone to take care of them while others need someone they can take care of. Being a mother is probabilistically better here because deeply, all men need a wife and the closest thing they ever had to a wife, is their mothers.

Certainly there are traits that are part of who you are and those, if changed, would make you someone else entirely. The question you should make before denying any request of change from your man is ask yourself this question: "Is this change gonna make me a better person?" Because sometimes a woman changes and loses sight of who she is and even the man who asked her to change starts hating her new self.

Think about it, are you the kind of person who would say such thing? I hope the answer doesn't make you regret things you said in previous relationships that might have contributed to the breakup.

Rebelling will not take you anywhere. I have learned this, my girlfriend has learned this and you can learn this.