WHEN TO INTRODUCE TO FRIENDS AND WHEN TO FAMILY

You like this guy and you think you want to have a serious relationship with him, you already think he's your boyfriend even though the word hasn't gotten out of his mouth, you meet friends while you are with him and you go blank, how will I introduce this guy to my friends here, and before you know it, you have already said: "This is John Doe, my boyfriend."

He doesn't say anything at that time, he smiles and is friendly, obviously and you think you have dodged a bullet. Now, imagine he's not thinking of a serious relationship yet and whenever he meets your friends he knows that they think he's your boyfriend. "How she could do that to me, he thinks to himself. We didn't even talk about this. It's better I stop this because she's way too advanced than me." Remember what we talked about why men leave good women.

If you haven't had the talk, it's better to say: "This is John Doe," only and then say "John Doe, this is Jane. She's a very good friend of mine. We have known each other since we were young. She's the closest thing I have to a sister. I really love her." And continue talking incessantly about your friend (if you get your friend to hint that usual "do you remember when..." that'd be great) and say nothing about your boyfriend. Trust me, you'll either have the talk right away or next time he'll introduce you as his girlfriend. If he doesn't love you, touch his ego. We tend not to know the difference.

To family, again, let him introduce you to his family first. You really don't want to introduce him to your family first. That could scare him away for good. If you are forced to do it, maybe you found your relatives by chance, use the trick above. If however, your relatives explicitly ask what is your situation, laugh and look at him passionately, then dodge the question or say "We're friends." Let him feel your pain for having to say those words.

The best way to get around this smoothly is to let him introduce you to his friends and family first, then you can do the same.

After you both introduce most of your friends and family to each other and after the word Boyfriend is explicitly spoken, come up with "Mom says she wants to know my boyfriend. She even asked what your favorite meal is." By the way, "What's your favorite meal?"

You want this conversation to be as light as possible and you should let him know that "I have told your mom that he's not ready yet and when he gets ready, he will come. Did I say it right, honey?" Wait to hear his answer and pay close attention to how his "yes" sounds here because that's how you know whether he wants it or not.

REASONS WHY HE WON'T MEET YOUR PARENTS

Sometimes guys don't want to meet your parents for such ridiculous reasons but not the ones you might think. Some guys think they should get well in life first so that when they appear to your family, they don't seem lost and vagabond. Some others fear this question, from your father, "What took you long?", or "What is it that you do?" when they're unemployed or still studying or plan to change jobs, others have never been introduced to a girl's parents before and the idea sounds daunting.

If you are too eager for him to meet your parents but you don't want to be pushy, there're are some tricks. You can invite him to a cousin's birthday, you can damage something on your computer and ask him for help (make sure you damage something easy to fix) or the darkest trick, if a relative passes away, tell him you'd like him to go with you. 

Usually in such sad moments everyone is focused in something else so they won't be a nuisance and everyone will get to meet him. As I said, it's really dark, almost too manipulative but if your moral compass agrees with it, preferably because you really want him there and you didn't murder anyone, then go for it.

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