WHEN AND HOW TO BRING UP ENGAGEMENT OR MARRIAGE



If your partner is like most guys, he has lost all credibility in marriage because of all the divorce and because we don't live in a world where when attraction starts fading away, they stay with each other trying to get it back, rather, in our world where if such happens we are more likely to get a divorce. Remember the time when this behavior was typical of famous people, well, Hollywood has won, they've officially made you believe what happens in their lives is the superior way of living. Or maybe it's because today Social Media has made us micro stars in our own world and we always think we deserve better.
Choice can be a curse and free will is overrated.

It's no coincidence arranged marriages like in India are happier and last longer.

Most men see Marriage as an institution, some seek stability but I don't know any man who dreams of getting married. There might be, I just don't know any.

Note that all this has anything to do with the actual wedding. That's almost entirely a woman's dream.

That does not mean your man doesn't want to marry you, it just means that we'd rather go to the notary's office, sign the papers and that's it, we are officially husband and wife, which you don't want to. You need the huge ceremony, as a matter of fact, you have got to have it for that's your childhood dream.

The topic of marriage should come up not as "let's talk about our future" kind of talk. It should come naturally, step by step, when you start talking about how many babies you think you can handle, when both feel it's time so that you don't shock him and scare him away.

 After he meets your parents or family, it's always easier to talk about these things because believe it or not, we tend to check your mothers to see whether you will be a good wife or not or how fat you will be.

If years pass and he's still not just talking about marriage but is avoiding the big talk, then we've got a problem. Normally this happens because:
- He’s undecided about his own future,
- His family hates you and he's not sure he wants to pick a side,
- He wants to get financially balanced in order to be able to provide (it doesn't matter if you earn a great salary, it's not about you, here, it's about a man's ability to provide),
- He thinks he's too young to commit. And he's still lost in this world where we have too many options.
- He thinks you are not the one. (A concept I talk about in this book)
- There's another girl and she's doing a better job than you as a girlfriend.
- His friends keep telling him you are not marriage material, and he doesn't want to look like a fool. (Reason why I talked about a clean reputation or at least a clean present, proof that you are a serious woman).

There are many more reasons than I can squeeze into this one book. In a wife, men seek stability and trust, a woman who cares about them and is present. I talked about this earlier.

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